The Pain of Relating

When we’re not in a relationship, the ego makes it seem as though all the pain would go away if we were. If the relationship lasts, however, it will actually bring much of our existential pain to the surface. That’s part of its purpose. It will demand all of our skills at compassion, acceptance, release, forgiveness, and selflessness. We might tend to forget the challenges involved in a relationship when we’re not in one, but we remember them clearly enough once we are. Relationships don’t necessarily take the pain away. The only thing that “takes the pain away” is a healing of the things that cause the pain.